According to Martin's Heidegger, the German Philosopher who said, " Man is thrown into being" , simply means we don't get to decide our sexuality, height or complexion on other natural endowment. Being gay is something that is shrouded in secrecy especially in Nigeria and so instead of helping homosexuals we stigmatize them making the situation worse. Homosexuals in Nigeria cuts across all sectors, they are not spirits they are our husbands , wives, brothers , sisters , friends etc, they are in every family, don't be fooled but society have taught them how to hide . The purpose of this write up however is to see how parents contribute to making this happen. Masculinity or feminism is on a scale from 0 to 10, but proper upbringing can normalize sexuality. There a place in "Things fall apart " , where Okonkwo said about one of his sons " He has too much of his mother in him", yes mother's should set boundaries about how close they are their son , how much care they give them , boys should be allowed to play rough play and get dirty. In some Africa country there a ritual called " weaning" where the father weans the boys child from his mother n takes his into his hut as early as 7 years and trains him into manhood. Homosexuality is the soul of a male child trying to connect n bound with his father , so u see most homosexuals are not close to their dads, so they keep searching for that bond in every man they r sexually attracted to. Fathers should make deliberate attempt to bond with your sons , mother's should bond with their daughters too. Most men don't know what it means to be a man n so settle to homosexuality. Like I said masculinity is on a scale on 1 to 10, with 10 being a perfect n whole sexuality but parenting can correct whatever defects that arises from birth. No homosexual is happy to be one , they might have accepted it as a way to survive cos they tried but couldn't change their sexuality.