I Committed The Biggest Relationship Sins Of All Time

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I've had a string of poor luck lately. I ran into *Alex, 34, twice in two weeks. *Alex was a person I had an on-again, off-again situationship with for roughly two and a half years, for those new to this column. The first time I saw him, I avoided him like the plague and pretended to be in the store looking for apples and oat milk. I even called my best friend *Natalie, 25, to make it appear as though I was too preoccupied to talk because I noticed him approaching me. He was immediately across the street from me the second time we met, and we made eye contact before nervously looking away. I was with *Mark, 30, the guy I'm informally dating right now. Mark, thankfully, didn't notice my minor mistake. You should go get yourself cleansed of this bad juju,” said my work wife *Shana, 29, jokingly when I told her what had happened. “Burn some sage or bathe yourself in holy water.” A few days later, I would casually see Mark out on a date with someone else at my neighbourhood coffee joint in the CBD. “You gotta be kidding me,” I thought to myself when I saw the back of Mark’s head and his unique identifier: a tattoo of three bold lines on the back of his arm as I was approaching the cafe. I think back to the time he explained what the tattoo meant. Immediately, Shana’s words about getting myself cleansed came to mind, and I wanted to kick myself in the gut for not taking it seriously. The thing is, I (the hypocrite) was there on a coffee date myself but seeing Mark with some other woman made me uncomfortable. The worst part of it all was that my date had chosen to sit by the cafe’s window, facing Mark’s table, so I had an unobstructed view of the object of my desire while he was meeting someone else. Great. The truth is, Mark and I saw each other casually, and we had a pretty clear don’t ask, don’t tell policy where I wouldn’t ask questions about who he was seeing or what he was doing, and he wouldn’t indulge me even if I did. But something about seeing him on a date with someone else made me, well, jealous. That’s natural, no? That fateful day, it dawned on me that I was committing one of the biggest sins too early on in any sort of relationship. I was getting emotionally attached way too quickly. And it was starting to annoy me. That entire day, I felt sort of shell-shocked. Firstly, by how strongly I felt about Mark; and secondly, my confusion towards wanting to continue the relationship we have. I knew I didn’t want to be in an entirely committed relationship — I was (and still am) enjoying the freedom of meeting other people and not having girlfriend responsibilities — so why the hell was I feeling this type of way? I know, though, that I’d eventually want to be in a long-term committed relationship when I’m in my 30s, but right now, there was still time, and it wasn’t like Mark and I have known each other for that long. It wasn’t too late to get myself out of the situation either; after all, we had only gone on a handful of dates. Even though we have both admitted to feeling slightly attached, I knew I could narrow the chances of getting hurt should my feelings develop even further if I just ended things right now. At the same time, I knew it would be slightly painful to end things because Mark and I got along so well, and we’ve had some emotionally intimate conversations. I decided to text him: Me: I saw you. At Maxi. With a date. Mark: Oh welp. Singapore’s small. Me: Can I get my toothbrush back? � (I had left my electric toothbrush at his when I spent the night the week before) Mark: � of course Me: I’ll come by later to get it? Mark: Is this like a “you just want your... Continue reading....

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