8 Ways To Feel Better After Breakup

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We’ve all been there at one point in our lives—those awful days following the demise of a relationship when all you want to do is climb in bed and pull the overs over your head. After all, breakups are never easy regardless of whether you got dumped or you did the dumping. And, if you’re like most people you probably don’t deal with breakups in the healthiest of ways. Maybe you resort to drowning your sorrows with food or drinks. Or, maybe you can’t stop blaming yourself for everything that went wrong. Whatever you’re current coping mechanisms, you’re probably wondering if there is a better way to get through this heartache. To help you put the past behind you and move on, we have compiled a list of eight things you can do right now to feel better and help mend your broken heart. So, don’t waste another second wallowing in the past and take steps to feel better right now. Acknowledge Your Feelings While it’s only natural to want to feel better, you don’t want to stuff your feelings or deny they even exist. Part of the healing process is acknowledging how you feel and allowing yourself to grieve. This process is especially important if you were in the relationship for any length of time. Even if the relationship was fraught with issues, it can still feel like a part of you is missing. It’s also important to allow yourself the time and the space to cry. Believe it or not, crying provides a release that actually will improve your mood and help you feel better in the long run.1 The key is getting stuck in this stage of the healing process. As a result, you need to allow yourself a few days or maybe even a week to process what happened, but after that it’s time to gather yourself and focus on moving on. This is not to say that a pang of sadness will not surprise you here and there, but crying for days and days can be counterproductive to the healing process. If you find that you can’t stop crying or that you are crying for no apparent reason, you should talk to your doctor or a counselor. Sometimes a traumatic breakup can trigger depression in some people or reignite a mental health issue. An Overview of Breakup Depression Remove Reminders of Your Ex When getting over a breakup, one of the first things you need to do is purge your house or apartment of all reminders of your ex. After all, it is kind of difficult to move on and heal from a breakup if you still have your ex’s picture on the nightstand or if you sleep in their old sweatshirt. As a result, take the time to remove all reminders of them from your home. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to burn their belongings, throw their stuff into the street, or sell everything they gave you, but you should at least box these items up. Return anything that belongs to them if you want, or donate it to charity. The choice is yours. But recognize that having reminders of your ex that are easily accessible is going to impede your progress. So, do yourself a favor and at the very least put it in storage. While you’re at it, you also should remove your ex from your social media accounts. Even though you may be curious about what they’re up to, receiving constant reminders through photos and posts will keep you stuck in the past. It also can be painful too if you see your ex with a new partner. So, as hard as it may be to do, unfriend and unfollow your ex as soon as possible. You may even want to block them from seeing your posts and updates. The fewer connections you have to one another the easier it will be to move on. Find Closure Sometimes cutting off all contact is not enough to help you move on. Sometimes, you need what people often refer to as closure. They key is that you find closure for the relationship in a healthy way. In other words, having coffee together to talk or getting together as friends even under the guise of finding closure, is not healthy. In fact, it just keeps you tethered to your ex, but in a really unhealthy way. Instead, you need to find other ways to bring about closure. One possible solution is to write a letter to your ex saying all the things you didn’t get a chance to say. Just don’t mail it or send it to them. It is the process of pouring out your feelings onto paper that helps you bring closure to the relationship—not sending it to them and hoping they will read it and feel a certain way. Plus, if you end up sending an emotional letter, you may end up regretting it later. There also is the chance that you will spend too much time wondering if they read the letter, what they thought about the letter, and if they are going to respond. Instead, write the letter more for yourself. And, if you feel like you need to share it with someone consider allowing a trusted friend read it or your counselor. 7 Things to Do if You Feel Emotional Make a List of Your Ex’s Faults Too many times after a breakup, people dwell on all the things they will miss about their ex. Instead of remembering them as they truly were, they see only the good qualities—the things that they are really going to miss. But doing this can be counterproductive to your healing. After all, if you want to move on, you need to remind yourself why the two of you are not a good fit. For this reason, take some time and write down all the things that bother you about your ex. Include big things and little things. For instance, if your ex struggled with infidelity, or wasn’t interested in talking about the future, remind yourself of those things and why it would have never worked any way. Continue reading....

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