Are You Pursuing Short Term Pleasure Or Long Term Love?

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If you are pursuing short term pleasure, you may feel really good right now. You may wake up smiling and feel as though you are flying through your day at work. Your mind may be focused on and eagerly anticipating those upcoming moments of bliss with this person who makes your heart sing. This is the stuff that love songs are made of, the joy of those early days and months and first few years when excitement reigns supreme and sensual love fills all the pores in your body. However, real love in the real world cannot sustain that high level of emotional intensity and sensual madness. Sooner or later, reality sets in. This person you could not stop thinking about, reaching out to touch, and longing to talk to, gradually becomes a real person with real needs. Some of those needs do not meet your own expectations. Some of this person's attitudes and behaviors and expectations may actually interfere with your normal and habitual way of being. Current studies indicate that what used to be called the 7 year itch has now dwindled down to a mere 3 years. That means, about 3 years into a relationship (and for many it happens much sooner), you may not feel so enthralled. Real life issues are staring you in the face. You discover traits and facets of this other person that you may not only dislike but actually hate. Then your eye catches a glimpse of someone else, someone who looks good, someone who smiles and appears to not have that "awful" trait you have just discovered in this familiar person. Here is where the issue of short term pleasure or long term pleasure is introduced. If you are seeking short term pleasure, you might decide to cheat on your current partner. You might get involved emotionally or sexually, telling lies to cover your tracks. The short term pleasure might be immeasurable. You might get back that lost feeling of desire and lust and passion. You might even dump your current, faithful partner for a chance to start again with this new person. Here is where the long term pain begins. When you pursue short term pleasure, the inevitable long term pain is not far behind. You may soon discover that this new person is not as enjoyable to be with as your former partner. In fact, you may desperately long to get back with the one you left, the one whose heart you broke. But even if you do return, the trust has been broken and may never be fully repaired. There will remain an element of long term pain indefinitely. However, if you had reach that 3 year itch and decide to do something to enhance your current relationship, you may be taking steps toward long term pleasure. By focusing on the needs and desires of the person who already cares about you, is already committed to you, and has a proven track record of loving you, you stand a chance to create something magnificent and long lasting. Loving relationships that endure have managed to weather the storms, to go through the painful periods, and to stay connected. Short term pain (sometimes months and even a few years) can be followed by renewed passion and long term bliss. The choice is always yours. Do you want to pursue short term pleasure with the potential for long term pain? Or would you rather endure some short term pain on the road to long term pleasure and enduring love?

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