Is This A Must??

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A young man got married to a girl who happens to be the first born of the family. She has 5 other siblings and had lost her father years ago. She earns a little over 30k (shes a secondary school teacher) while the husband earns about 300k (hes a medical doctor) and they operate a joint account... This lady feels she has to take responsibility for her mum and siblings as the first child, and so she sends them an average of 50k per month (minus small small expenses like tp to visit them, buy one or two things for them and all), and the husband is not comfortable with this at all and is always complaining (the husband also sends money to his people too and is currently sponsoring his own sister through medical school) that she is sending too much money to her people but she'll argue that the man is sponsoring his own sister, so why would she not try and support her own siblings.... The man argues that he makes enough money and thus can afford to sponsor his sister and still take care of his family, but she on the other hand is sending more money than she makes to her own people at the detriment of the home. He told her that if she must send money to her people, it should be from the money that is within her means (that is from her salary)... She also wants to train her younger siblings who are in school and she wanted two of them to stay with them,but the husband is against it, he says they should focus on their family (they have 2kids) and forgo all other things, but if she insists then she should use her salary and rent a house for them else where or they should stay in the hostel since she's comparing herself to him (the man rented a house close to school for his sister who is studying medicine and surgery) This sending money to her people brought so much problem to the extent that he had to stop operating a joint account with his wife, because the wife kept sending money to her people, and one certain time she spent about 180k to clear part of the school debt of her siblings, without the husband's knowledge or consent... The Crux of the matter is that, anytime she asks him for money, he hardly gives it to her, though he pays all the bills, school fees, clothes, food and all, but he hardly gives his wife money for any personal thing, when she makes a request, he'll tell her to use her own money, knowing fully well that she has probably sent all of it to her people... This is causing so much trouble in their marriage, the woman doesn't cook for the man or does his laundry anymore (she only focuses on the kids), and because of this, the man had to bring in a maid and ever since the maid came to the house, the wahala has escalated.... Copied!! My question is, is it compulsory take on the responsibilities of your in-laws?? Does it mean because you married from a poor family that means, you have automatically become the bread winner of that family?? Because I believe that the root of the problem is that the woman expects the man to also sponser her sisters the same way he is sponsoring his own sister, she's expecting him to also carry the responsibilities of her people the same way he is carrying the responsibilities of his own people and since that is not happening, she feels her man doesn't care about her own people, thus the crisis

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