How To Deal With A 'Competitive' And Insecure Friend

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So, she moved into my house and as a fellow housemate, I decided to make her feel welcome. I introduced her to my friends and within a short time, she adapted to her new environment. Then, she began revealing herself. There is a guy who visits me. I know the guy likes me but I pretend not to notice so as not to complicate the friendship. Whenever this guy comes around, I invite my friend over to come and chat with us. From there, my friend goes to her room too and we're all cool together. Remember, no strings attached at all. Along the way, the guy got closer to me, sometimes spends the entire day with me and leaves late in the night. If my friend comes by 7pm to say hi and she comes by 10pm and meets him there, she will be like, so you're still here? Anyways, what made me to start suspecting her insecurities was when this guy came around and I was in the washroom. He went to her room and when I got out, I greeted him. What did my friend say? She said, you are happy to see her and you were not even this happy to see me. She was so serious about it and I felt like, we're not in a competition. I felt disappointed in her. Another time, we went for a job together and I had issue with the supervisor there, she could have waited with me to show some empathy, instead, she strolled off and I dealt with it myself. In the same place, she got some guys fawning over her and I was cool with that but whenever we want to talk, she starts throwing it in my face. I didn't show any emotion cos I saw it as immature. Note, I look younger than my age but not in a bad way. So we went to a grocery store to buy stuffs and the woman demanded for my age, but I told her it's okay that I'm an adult. When we left the place, she started making jest and trying to provoke emotions. I just laughed it off and told her the wan wasn't the first to say that and that I'm happy I look young. Then, undecided to start distancing myself gradually. I've stopped going to her room. Now, when she comes to mine. She will start going through my shelves. She'll be in like, oh your room looks different. You just bought this thing. Oh, you just be bought that. It can be really nerve-wracking. I just feel like, we're not in a competition and I'm not out to impress you. Anyways, I always maintain my cool. A little background about me, I can be very unemotional and ruthless with people but for like two years now, I've changed. If I'm to deal with her with my previous character, I would have nipped it in the bud from inception, cut all relationship with her and ignore her existence. But, I'm all matured now and I know fighting may not be the best way to handle matters like this. Please, I need matured advice

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