This is an excerpt from a book I'm reading... > Too many men seek power from outside themselves. They will part with great amounts of money in order to try to buy some magic bullet. There is no such thing as a magic bullet. Furthermore, they are not assuming responsibility for their own outcome. Too many men are busy running around trying to get as many women to sleep with them as possible, thinking that it will prove something to themselves. But it won’t, and such men end up still having the same underlying problems. They need to fix their problems before they involve real people. Too many men entirely base their self worth on how many women say yes. That puts all the power in the women. There is nothing personally powerful about that. Too many men see women as an obstacle to get around to get to the sex. Such men are just masturbating inside an object. So many men place power in a woman based solely on the woman’s looks. He does not even consider who she is as a person. What you are seeking so relentlessly is nothing that comes from outside of you, it's something you already have. There is only you. You have only you to rely on. You have only you that you can count on. And what better to work on than yourself? But you have to believe that you deserve it. People don’t necessarily get what they want. People don’t necessarily get what they need. Instead, people get what they honestly and truly believe that they deserve. In other words, people get what they expect to get. The key to having what you want is not getting what you want, but being the person for whom getting what you want is a mere byproduct of the reality you create simply by the way you live life. It builds a foundation of belief that is very real and a relationship with reality that is very empowering.