This issue has been bothering me. Though not enough to make me lose my sleep. I mean... It's her choice and she was already a full grown adult when she made that choice but I just feel she should wake up and use her head! This is no other than my second half. The guy she married is a pain in the butt and has been treating her with so much disregard and disrespect but she has failed to see this or maybe knows but has refused to take heed advice to ditch this good for nothing guy. Now, I try and highlight how it all started and please!!!!! No one should think my disapproval of their unhealthy relationship has anything to do with what I'm about to share. No way! In 2001, ( I was still in school) we were still living with our parents. This guy (now my sister's hubby) chyked me for good three years but because I don't dig fair guys, I outrightly rejected him. He continued to disturb me for years but I just kept giving him different excuses to wars him off. It even got to point I had to lie I was possessed of spiritual husband. Still this guy didn't give up but instead offered to take me to his church for deliverance. That was the height of it. I couldn't take it any longer. So I told my I who he used to send to call me out that she should never call me out for him again! There was no mobile phone then. So no disturbance from that angle. This guy will come and stand at our gate and wait for hours until I come out. So I'll tell my Mom not to send me on errands because that guy is at the gate. Thank God. My Mom understood and corporated with me. One day I was returning from work. This guy accosted me and said, since I'm forming holy Mary, that if he see me with any guy in this area, he'll harm me and harm himself. Since I hated him the more and avoided where he threads like a plague. After a few years we moved out and told popsy, we wanted to be living on our own after we lost momsy and the last born and he said ok. That was how we left that area. I was happy. Now, fastforward to 2016, my sis told me some people are coming. I said who? She didn't want to divulge it to me. I said is it someone I know, she said, they are coming. I said ok. Or... I think she hinted me and I was like that guy? And she looked at me somehow. So, i kept quiet and swallowed what I wanted to say. They eventually came and did all they did. Now, before my sis married this guy, she used to work with an engineering firm that sends her outside the country for training and give them huge allowances. So, she had money and other businesses. And she this kid of person that likes disclosing her net worth to any man she's dating. I guess she told this guy all that. After the marriage, he started trying to control her. She discovered so many things I wouldn't want to disclose here. She left her job just to cater for his children. When sees cash was no longer flowing like before, he changed and became a monster. He'll talk anyhow to her in public. Disrespect and assault her. This continued for four years until she reported him to the police after he used annoyance to hit their 1yr baby just to get my sister angry. They were keeping malice and all that nonsense. He kept insulting her every now and then. Now, I've tried to o make my sis understand that this guy doesn't love you. Leave for the sake of your sanity. I discovered that each time I try to advice her, there's a way she behaves as if I'm not happy about her marriage to the guy. God knows it's the way he treats and disrespects her I don't like. He recently fell ill, and my sister has been the one running around with children, tending to him. ( This is someone he's been keeping malice with for long) So, I asked her why didn't he call all those his girlfriends to come and care for him? Today, I was there to see them. He started his madness again. That my sister should do this, do that. Take the son for a haircut bla bla. She was like, since morning she's been doing stuff and has not sat down. That she wants to rest. The next thing, this idiot started vomiting rubbish. That she knows now, if not for this sickness, she'll not see him here. The thing pained me. I just walked out before I lose my cool and lash him. I sat at the staircase. My sis came to meet me and I told her, save up some money and leave this man. My twin just said M! and took her son to the barbers shop. How can I make her see the monster doesn't love her? Who can live under such conditions and why? For love. Thunder fire that love. Long story short. This is one major reason I've decided to stay unmarried. I don't have the strength for nonsense.