DISCLAIMER: Do not mind how I write as am just pouring out my frustrations. I really want to call off this process that I have started, but my uncles are saying that its not good to start a marriage process and then back out because of high cost list. My dad have already hands off cos initially he told me that marrying from that side is going to cost me a lot, but then I thought things have changed. Am from the state of THE COAL while my wife to be is from the state of SUPREME COURT GOV. I hope you understand. Shes a naijaworlder, so I wont be clear with some information. First of all, I am not creating this thread for any tribalistic reason, so all these tribal warlords here on naijaworld should stay off. We all know that one of the process of getting married is Igbo land is to pass through traditional marriage and this comes with presentation of marriage list to be provided by the groom's family. The aim of this thread is to speak my mind on why the list should be made optional, ie if you can afford to buy the material then you buy, but if you cant afford it, you can be given the option of just paying the bride price(which of course is not usually expensive) and then proceed with the traditional marriage. The economic situation of this country is no longer friendly and this have made a lot of marriageable youths to still remain unmarried as they cant afford to pay up the cost of getting married. Am going to explain more with my experience so far in trying to get married.