In the most recent times the news of young ladies falling into depression and committing suicide due to being jilted or dumped by their lovers is on the increase and this is very saddening and worrisome. Being depressed is a horrible emotional and mental state to be. Depression is real and it is a very serious mental problem which must be handled with caution because it can easily become overwhelming. According to the renowned Christian counselor Gary R. Collins, Ph.D. “depression overwhelms its victims with feelings of despair, fear, exhaustion, immobilizing apathy, hopelessness, inner desperation, and thoughts of suicide.” Unfortunately depression is said to be higher among youths schooling than their counterparts not in school because those in school are under many pressures such as societal, parental, financial and academic pressures. Jilting happens mostly when two people who have no business being in a love relationship with each other in the first place are. Although, in most cases there are usually early signs that the relationship is heading nowhere or towards hitting the rock, however, the one who would bear the brunt would ignore the signs because he or she has been blinded by love. The one who suffers heartbreak when a supposed love relationship collapses is usually the one truly in love, the most committed and the one who has put in his or her everything in such a relationship and has remained true. Nothing can equate to the pains, trauma, and agony one suffers emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally as a result of being jilted because of what love is. Love generally is the greatest of all passions as it simultaneously affects the mentality, the heart and the sensory organs. Therefore, when one is jilted, one becomes traumatized mentally; the heart seems shattered into a million pieces and it hurts; and all the organs in one’s body begin to malfunction. This makes the pains and sorrows of being jilted something felt all over one’s body and it is something that makes one confuse, weep profusely and become depressed. Once depressed, nothing in life matters again. It is in this state of despair and depression that Satan would prompt one to make wrong decisions to commit suicide. This is why it is advised that one shouldn’t make decisions when the heart is very troubled. No matter the intensity of the pains felt, take heart, don’t allow it to overwhelm you to the extent of you getting depressed and giving up on life. You must never give up on Life. Don’t give place to the devil in your heart. Suicide is not an option! Life is precious and it must be well guided and lived to the fullest. Now that it has happened, you have to be strong and brace up. Pick up the bits and pieces of your heart together and forge ahead. Although, the pains of heartbreak takes time to heal. However, accepting the whole situation as it is helps to heal the wound on time. Go through the pains and not around the pains because only then will you learn valuable life’s lessons and also gain experience. If you need to cry, then, cry as it brings inner relief. Being jilted though very painful is something not worth dying for at all because it is not the end of life. It is just a sad experience like other past sad experiences therefore; it is bound to pass away. Whatever makes you think you cannot live without the supposed lover that dumped you is a lie because you survived before he or she came into your life and you are bound to survive after he or she must have left. Others before you who were heartbroken survived it, so you too will. I want you to know that for someone who claimed to have loved you to dump you means he or she never really loved you in the first place because love fails not (1 Cor. 13:8 ). Such a person is not worthy of you and not meant for you. Consider this, if you kill yourself because someone dumped you, the one who dumped you loses nothing because it is not his life and he does not feel your pains while you as the one dumped would lose your life, reputation and everything. So please don’t kill yourself. One question you should ask yourself is this; will killing one’s self make the one that dumped you to now love you? Of course not! Instead it would make him blame, mock, hate, curse and wish you everything evil in your journey beyond. What impact will your death have on him/her? None! As long as he did not kill you by himself or send someone else to kill you, he wouldn’t even be charged to court of law or charged for manslaughter or murder! Therefore, be wise and think very well and don’t harm or kill yourself for a worthless person. You must stay alive since dying would not give you the opportunity to show your haters that your life is not dependent on them and that you can be fulfilled and happy without them. Live, so that you can tell the story of how you overcame and be a source of encouragement to others. Always remember that being jilted by a supposed lover like other disappointments is a blessing in disguise. Therefore be grateful to God for removing from your life an unworthy being instead of wasting your time grieving for being jilted. Brace Up. Be strong and courageous and allow whoever wants to leave, go away. Don’t ever beg him or her to take you back because it will still end in tears. Know that the one that jilted you might go about spreading nasty and untrue things about you, just to make you feel bad and probably make you hate yourself. However, don’t let such talks bother you. Don’t isolate yourself or indulge in self-pity. Instead, love yourself more, look your best and go on with your life. Nothing is wrong with you because the Bible says, “You are beautifully and wonderfully made.” (Ps. 139:14). God loves you and He says you are precious and honorable in His sight (Isaiah. 43:4). Friends may come up blaming you for being the cause of the break-up, but don’t be bothered. It is your business and not theirs. No matter what anybody says, don’t ever allow anyone’s judgment to weigh or pull you down. That someone lets you down does not imply you will never find love again. You will. I assure you that someone else more lovely and loyal would come your way soonest. Love yourself more. Take good care of yourself while you enjoy the liberty God has given you by saving you from a relationship that would probably give you a hell of time if it had continued. The devil might want to capitalize on your sad experience and come up with a lie that nobody cares and loves you. Don’t ever believe this lie because there are lots of people that love, admire and adore you that you are not aware of. The reason why I have taken time to write this is because I care about you and I love you. PLEASE TALK TO A TRUSTED AND UNDERSTANDING SOMEONE ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH... HOW TO AVOID HEARTBREAK 1) Be aware of the fact that falling in love with someone of a different religious beliefs, fundamental values, ideologies, tribe and race often ends in disappointment, so be wise. “Can two walk together, except they agree?” (Amos 3:3). 2) Know and be able to distinguish between love, likeness, lust and infatuation. For example, someone may just like you because he admires certain things in or about you. Maybe all s/he just wants from you is to be ordinary friends. Let it remain as that, don’t fall in love with such a person, and don’t force yourself on such a person; else, you will get hurt. 3) Know that humans lie a lot. Not all who profess to love you are in love with you. What some persons who come to you are after is just sex and their behavior like inappropriate touching and dirty talks would reveal this, once such have satisfied themselves they would go. Don’t fall in love with someone who just wants sex because no matter what you do, such a person can never be emotionally attached to you, they will dump you afterall. 4) Don’t indulge in premarital sex (Hebrews 13:4). Girls mostly think that having sex with a man would make him stay and marry them. Some even believe getting pregnant would make a man fall in love with them. This is a big lie. Sex endears a female to a male emotionally, but sex is not so to most males, it is just a mere way of satisfying their sexual urges. What makes being jilted heartbreaking for many is the feeling of being used and dumped after sexual intimacy with the opposite sex and unnecessary or wasteful spending on them. 5) True love between two partners is what sustains relationship and not beauty, expensive gifts and free sex. 6) True Love is very scarce these days, therefore it is very important to seek the face of God who is love and the source of true love in prayers for someone that would love and cherish you. It might take some time for the right person to come, but it is worth the wait. Try and put all that has happened behind you. Move on with your life. You have better days ahead. The best is yet to come. You would soon find true love. The best thing to do in the face of heartbreak is to turn one's pain to God through Jesus Christ in prayers and ask for His help and strength. He knows and understands how you feel because he passed through such when He was denied, rejected and crucified on the cross by the very people He loved so much and had come to save. He is the perfect healer of broken hearts (Psalm 147:3). He would heal you of your broken heart and give you His love and peace in replacement. His love fails not. Lamentations 3:22. God truly loves and cares for you, so cast your burden upon Him and you will be glad you did. Please pray following these steps: a) Admit you are a sinner. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus our Lord,” (Rom. 3:23; 6:23). b) Repent of all sins. “Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;” (Acts 3:19). “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9). c) Believe that God loves you and that Jesus His only Son died for you. “But God commendeth his love towards us, in that, while we were yet sinners. Christ died for us,” (Rom 5:8; Acts 10:40&43). d) Invite Jesus into your heart “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock; if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me,” (Rev. 3:20) e) Forsake everything that led to the former situations you were. “Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let them return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.” (Is. 55:7). My prayers are with you and I am available should you need someone to talk to. GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I.