My Husband’s Malice And Anger Almost Scattered Our Marriage-how Do We Heal After

source: tiktalkhub
46

I am enraged but also very confused. This all started during our courtship. My husband, then, my boyfriend has a very bad character that I have tried all my best to manage and ignore. We have even broken up twice during courtship due to his character. I am talking about how he likes to keep malice and give silent treatment anytime we have a misunderstanding. I am a very extroverted person. I like to express myself and not bottle up my emotions. My boyfriend will avoid confronting the issue but he will just disappear from the scene for two weeks or more and come back later. This happens anytime we disagree on something. He always expects me to yield to his own argument and when I don’t, he will keep malice and give me complete silence. He will not pick up calls, no response to chat or text. He will even block me on social media then. There were times I got tired and broke up with him. One time too, he too broke up with me. It was a beautiful relationship but his management of disagreement is very bad. Most times, I do my possible best to avoid an argument, knowing if it gets out of hand, my boyfriend will just ghost me instead of talk about it. When he finally proposed to me after three years of dating: I was scared in my heart but I was counseled that he will grow up and mature with time. That dating is not the same as marriage. We both even talk about it. He made it clear that he had outgrown that behavior of running away. Although he did say that I am stubborn and he does not like it when I don’t take his own decision on any matter. I am an alpha woman: I was raised to take my own decisions even though I know a man is the head of the home, I respect him as the head of the home but that does not mean that if I disagree with something he has to say, I will not air my opinion about that. And by God’s grace, God has been helping me. We have been married for 4 years. We have twins less than a year after marriage. So we both agreed that we will hold on for like when the twins are five years old before having one more child. Having to raise two babies at once is not easy but God is helping us. In the meantime, my husband has still not changed his character. Anytime I cannot help myself by ignoring his behavior on something and I disagree with him, he goes back into his character. He will start sleeping in the guest room. He will refuse to eat my food. He will not speak to me. He will just be acting like a stranger until I go and beg him. This usually annoys m especially when I am not the one wrong in the matter. But because its marriage and I want peace in my home, I just beg him when the malice has reached like 2 weeks plus.  That is how we have been living until one year ago. A lady moved into the other flat in our compound. A young lady, single. I noticed this lady does not greet me but she greets my husband. I told my husband, he said I can ignore her then. This happened for almost a month she moved in. By the second month, her car broke down and she started following my husband in his car to go to work cos both work on the island. To me, I was upset with my husband for allowing a single woman to ride with him every day to work. A single woman who does not even greet me as the man’s wife. So, I brought up the conversation and my husband said I should let it go, that I am just being petty. That really annoyed me. I told my husband if he will be happy I am riding with another man who is not greeting him? He said he trusts me and so no problem. My issue is not that I don’t trust my husband but I don’t trust this woman. My husband said I am just being a drama queen. One day, in the morning, I was driving out to go drop the kids in school in my car, and this woman just passed me without saying good morning and the next thing she did was go straight to my husband’s car. The height of disrespect!!! I got so upset, I came down and walked up to this lady and told her to get out of my husband’s car. I made a scene by telling her that she is untrained and a flirt for not acknowledging me by greeting me but she has the audacity to get into my husband’s car every day. This slut of a woman cursed me and said I should stop being insecure …that if my husband wanted to cheat with her, I would not know and that if she didn’t greet me, why didn’t I greet her. That day, I was so embarrassed and enraged cos my husband did nothing but drove away with this bitch in his car. I have never felt so disregarded in all my life. My husband actually chooses this woman over me. That evening, our quarrel continued. He said I embarrassed him, that this woman is engaged and her fiance is in Germany. And so, does that mean she does not have eyes for my man?

NB: Stories are shared by community members. The article does NOT represent the official view of NaijaWorld and the author is SOLELY RESPONSIBLE for this article
Comments

About Us
Join the discussion. Share and discuss posts with other naijaworlders.
Related Stories
thumbnail
Age Or Romance, Which Is A Better Reason To Enter Into A Relationship?
thumbnail
No Romance Without Finance Is The Best Approach To Romance
thumbnail
Single Dad,43, Took His Life After Being Tricked Into Sending £500 To Woman
thumbnail
How To Use Crystals To Bring Back Your Ex
thumbnail
Pictures From Open Teenage Romance
thumbnail
12 Bonding Tips For Introverted Couples
thumbnail
Benefits Of Early Morning Sex
thumbnail
Fake Aocoed Lecturer Desperate For Alumni Presidency To Cover His Ills
thumbnail
NAAKISS Parliament Gives Comr. Aniedi Michael 14 Days To Declare Action For Peac
thumbnail
When FCMB Defended Ex-md, Adam Nuru’s Sex Scandal With The Bank’s Staff
thumbnail
7 Bbnaija Housemates You Didn't Know Have Celebrity RELATIVES.
thumbnail
Wedding Night Gone Wrong- An Action Romance Story
thumbnail
Who Is The Most Important Disney Princess?
thumbnail
The ‘Ex’ Factor, And How It Applies To The Realities Of Life…
thumbnail
Curvy Ladies On Bikini That Will Arouse You... [With Photos]
Related Stories
thumbnail
Age Or Romance, Which Is A Better Reason To Enter Into A Relationship?
thumbnail
No Romance Without Finance Is The Best Approach To Romance
thumbnail
Single Dad,43, Took His Life After Being Tricked Into Sending £500 To Woman
thumbnail
How To Use Crystals To Bring Back Your Ex
thumbnail
Pictures From Open Teenage Romance
thumbnail
12 Bonding Tips For Introverted Couples
thumbnail
Benefits Of Early Morning Sex
thumbnail
Fake Aocoed Lecturer Desperate For Alumni Presidency To Cover His Ills
thumbnail
NAAKISS Parliament Gives Comr. Aniedi Michael 14 Days To Declare Action For Peac
thumbnail
When FCMB Defended Ex-md, Adam Nuru’s Sex Scandal With The Bank’s Staff
thumbnail
7 Bbnaija Housemates You Didn't Know Have Celebrity RELATIVES.
thumbnail
Wedding Night Gone Wrong- An Action Romance Story
thumbnail
Who Is The Most Important Disney Princess?
thumbnail
The ‘Ex’ Factor, And How It Applies To The Realities Of Life…
thumbnail
Curvy Ladies On Bikini That Will Arouse You... [With Photos]