Travel To UK With My Wife Or Stay Back And Allow Wifey Travel With The Kids

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Dear naijaworlders, Pls I'm not a regular poster here though I visit the site on a regular especially with my main account. I'm in a big moment of indecision, so I seek advice... I'll be 42 this year. I'm 8 years in marriage. My wife is a nurse, employed plus other side hustle. I'm also not doing badly with a salary of above 600k per month (when u add every). We have kids. I was the one who initiated the idea of us moving outside the country, however, I've started developing cold feet. Of course, my wife has gotten so engrossed with the idea and eagerly preparing for her IELTS and other exams for the move. I have been ever supportive but the truth is that I am no longer eager to make the move. My present disposition has been to support my wife any way I can for the move but tell her I'm not ready to join them when everything works, convince her to go ahead with the kids while I stay back. Below are my reasons why I prefer it that way: 1. I presently feel ok with my job and I don't think the pay is bad. My wife is a nurse, it's quite ok for her if she travels abroad. She'll probably make it from the go there. I'm not so sure about that for me. So how do I leave my present comfortable job for an unknown? Of course, some friends have been encouraging me to make the move that I'll get sth that will be fetching me higher there, but I still have my fears. 2. I've always had a dream for Nigerian politics, though I don't have the resources to pursue that dream for now, but I feel in 40s, I need to be close to home at least and monitor proceedings � . What about wifey makes it and joins resources with me to launch into that? 3. Well, I feel the vibes with which we went into marriage is no longer that strong and I feel I and my wife give each other some space. I visit at intervals, perhaps that may help clear my head, process things and who knows bring back the vibes. The fears; 1. I think my wife won't entertain the idea of me staying back. She doesn't trust me that much for good reasons. 2. My kids are still young, 3 kids ranging 7 to 2 years. I love them to bits and it may shatter them not having daddy around. Not being close on their formative years may just be disastrous. So please guys, I need your objective advice. Kindly don't insult me, I'm an elder� I'll appreciate if the MODs move to front page for more visibility �

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