I really don’t know what to do. I am not sure if sharing my story will help but I need your advice. I got introduced to lesbianism while I was in secondary school many years ago. My girlfriend was my best friend and we had a secret relationship until university days. We became afraid of being caught and decided to end things. Since then, I have only been with men. I have been married for 9 years now. With three children. Our marriage is cool and everything is going on fine until about four years ago, my husband cheated on me with a colleague. It was the most devastating blow. I knew he was cheating but he kept denying it until I cloned his phone and saw all their conversations. I confronted my husband with the evidence and he kept denying his phone was hacked. But I was able to give evidence that I followed them to their secret hideouts, he began to plead and promise not to do it anymore. Since that time, I found it hard to see my husband as the same loving man that married me. I gradually began to fall into depression and found out that I was seeking out attention from old memories of me being with a female. I started to think men were truly scum for cheating on their beautiful wives. A year after, my school girlfriend who is now married, contacted me on Facebook. She invited me to her father’s burial ceremony in Ibom. I became unusually excited. I was able to convince my husband that I wanted to go be there for my friend during her time of grief. I traveled to Ibom and my friend was very very happy to see me. We caught up on old times as we participated in all the ceremonies. It was clear that we still had a bond. And that was how we resumed our relationship again. I know some people will say being a les is bad but being with my friend is the most peaceful time of my life. Being with a fellow woman who understands how you feel is so beautiful. This has been my secret for almost a year now until my friend’s husband discovered our affair. He is a bad man because he began to threaten to expose us except I sleep with him.