There's no almighty formula to marriage. Its all about discovering who you are, what you want, who your partner is and what your partner wants. If there is no knowledge of your partner and compromise in that area, there will always be conflict. People have to understand that an individual is a product of their experience, environment and exposure, so you have to understand them before you can cohabitate with them peacefully, and achieve set goals. For instance, some partners based on past relationships want to be handled a certain way sexually, some want you to involve them in every decision based on their exposure, others want you to take charge of everything based on how they were raised. Find what works for you! There's no almighty formula to marriage.