What is the essence of marriage that you enjoyed/endured everything you suppose to enjoy and endure during marriage? You have started having sex, cohabiting/sleeping, washing, sweeping, cooking and doing all sorts of things that a husband and wife suppose to do together, marriage become useless when you have slept with a man/woman before your parents/family members consented to your wedding. Marriage becomes useless when you have already have a taste and pain of divorce before marriage, some people have been guilted and heart broken several times and divorce is already nothing to them, they don't care anymore. What is the essence of marriage when you have hurt the person you wanted to get married to and that one is waiting for marriage to unleash retribution and reprisal on you, marriage become useless. What is the essence of marriage when you have already have lots of bitter experiences and presumption about marriage and your mind is made up that all men are cheats and all women are troublesome and problematic? What is the essence of marriage when you already dated 2 or more people that you are now comparing with your fiancee/fiance/husband/wife? what if he or she is not as handsome/rich or beautiful, well mannered and domesticated like those you have dated? What is the essence of marriage when your honey pot have been widened and average something doesn't suit you anymore? What is the essence of marriage when you are now sex addict (nymphomaniac), you already prefer hard pounding, sex indiscriminately everyday? What if she/he is indisposed and unable to give you sex or he or she travelled and not around? Marriage needs no practical experience, I have noticed that the past destroys marriage more than what happens in the marriage. Keep away from illicit relationship, it pays to marry without any experience rather than having bitter experience.