Love is more than feelings, it's the values that you have that creates the true and honest love and care that people have towards you. So when someone tells you they love you without showing you why, then chances are that they are either lying or lusting after you. Don't believe then when they tell you, "I love you because I have feelings for you," Feelings fades, but values don't. Anything can cause feelings, it could be lust, fear, rejections... It(feelings) isn't always caused by love. They all won't honestly care unless you give them a reason to. So go out there and create a reason, value... that will make them want to love, care or respect you. So what made you realized that people didn't actually loved or cared for you? That it were all a lie and they were faking it. Mine is when I was disappointed because I thought that love, caring... is reciprocal, I thought that helping people, being there for them, caring for them will also make them do the same for you, but I was dead wrong. My expectations then was different from the reality. So I realized that if you want people to love, care about you, even if it's in a pretentious way, then you have to give them a reason to do so. It's your value that will make them want to do those things for you, not necessarily what you do for them. So it's better to go out there and create reasons, values that will change the way people see you... Than to do things expecting them to reciprocate it. Nah, it doesn't work that way. So what are the things, experiences that proved your expectations from people to be wrong?